Retrospect is such an interesting thing. Knowing what we know now and looking back on the events of our life can yield some new conclusions. When things work out and we have a positive viewpoint, the tough times in the past don’t seem so bleak and the hard spots seem to get forgotten. However, when we are hurt or blindsided by negative moments, all the events that lead to that point are darkly colored in our mind and seem to starkly stand out more than all the good ones.
I guess it is a matter of perspective. I have often wished I could tell a younger me not to sweat the small stuff and focus more on the big picture. Not to get bogged down by small instances of difficulty and instead focus on what I am lucky to have, like friends and family who would take a bullet for me.
I guess I like how Muhammad Ali says it. “A man who views the world the same at fifty as he did at twenty has wasted thirty years of his life.” We are constantly changing how we view the world and tweak what we find most important and that is the beauty of it all; the process. I know cliché right? But sometimes the journey is far greater than the end destination and its more about who you are with than who you’ll meet when you get there.
So if you look back at something in your life and think “Man, I wish I could have done it better,” do not fret and instead think about the person you want to be in 30 years and ask “Am I becoming that person today?”